Demon Child

September 21, 2005 — 8 Comments

“When you’re essentially told you have a demon child, you feel like you’ve failed yourself and your kid,”

As I sat in Dr. Mohler’s studio the other day he mentioned that one of his most popular shows that he’d done in the past–spanking. Of course, I had an idea for a post, which quickly flashed, through my mind. But I also quickly put it away. I wouldn’t steal controversy.

But much to my surprise this morning I picked up USA Today and glanced at one of the front page articles: “Out-of-line preschoolers increasingly face expulsion.”

My first thoughts were “who is the one who is supposed to keep kids in line? The teachers? Are they the ones who must put up with kicking, fighting, screaming, biting and the six-year-old and his dirty underpants? Are parents dumping their kids off expecting the teachers to take their jobs as parents while the mom and dad head off to make money to pay for three cars and a million-dollar home?

Today, 7 our of every 1000 preschoolers are expelled for not sharing, acts of anger, throwing mulch, running ahead of the group, and other instances of blatant disobedience. Is this treatment too harsh for preschoolers?

“This is an issue that cuts across (demographic) settings,” Walter Gillian says regarding expelled children, “We’re talking about the educational equivalent of capital punishment being handed down to the very young.”

So what’s the problem? How can we reduce the amount of children expelled on a regular basis? Could the problem be that we do not have enough teachers in the classroom? Or could it be poor parenting?

“When you’re essentially told you have a demon child, you feel like you’ve failed yourself and your kid,” says Claire Lerner, director of parent education at the non-profit group Zero to Three.

Maybe they ought to feel that way if the discipline of the child has been neglected. I’m not going to rush in right here a push for one type of discipline technique or anything (though the counting “One…two…three” is the worst technique ever invented), but I will support obedience. That’s basic. Discipline for obedience.

Yes, I was spanked, and I can tell you that I do not remember that much about it (no, my parents are not forcing nor telling me to put this in the post). I believe I’m better because of spanking. It’s not necessarily the most pleasant thing in the world, but it’s worked for generations, and if used correctly, is a great tool in parenting.

But when we have parents who give their children far too many choices, we have serious issues. I’ve seen at associate with kids who’ve been raised with too many choices of what they wanted for breakfast and what they wanted to wear to school. They are never ordered to do anything. The parents may attempt to negotiate with them, but will basically allow them whatever they want.

Most of these kids are the “monsters” expelled from school because they think only of themselves, and may “behave” only if they get their way or it will be of benefit to them. How in the world will these children be able to relate and act properly in society when they have never learned to obey and follow orders?

For some though, it may be special needs, and I understand that. Betsy Tores said that they are “seeing kids now from fractured families with no ability to bond.”

Every issue really boils down to the base of society–the family. When that breaks down, everything else follows, and we’re seeing the repercussions.

The family: Dad, Mom, and kids. It’s a fact of life that’s getting torn apart–and we as a society are reaping the consequences in the government, in our schools, and in every place we go.

Let’s pray that we return to the foundation of all society.

Tim Sweetman

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Tim Sweetman is a young writer, blogger, and student who lives near our nation’s capital, Washington D.C. He has been much more widely known by his “code-name,” Agent Tim. This name also served as the name of his popular blog, which received over 750,000 visits between 2005 to 2007. In 2005, he quickly rose to become a leading teenage spokesperson and cultural critic within the booming blogosphere, taking on issues such as MySpace, alcohol, homeschooling, pride, racism, tolerance, and other topics relating to our culture today. His blog has come to the attention of people such as Albert Mohler, C.J. Mahaney, Alex and Brett Harris, and La Shawn Barber. Tim’s written work has appeared in Lifeway’s Living With Teenagers (February 2012), Lookout Magazine, FUSION Magazine, The Brink Online, The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, Virtue Magazine, Regenerate Our Culture Online Magazine, and on many other blogs and websites across the internet like Marry Well and the Lies Young Women Believe Blog. He has also been featured in WORLD Magazine, The Towers Magazine, and Maryland Newsline. He is scheduled to have an article appear in Veritas Magazine this December. Most recently, his work can be found on Focus on the Family’s Boundless Webzine. His personal interests include writing (surprise!) and sports, both watching and playing. He is a die-hard Washington Redskins fan.

8 responses to Demon Child

  1. Here is Malaysia, ‘family’ includes grandma, grandpa, uncles and aunties too.. hehehe…

  2. Deep thoughts, Tim.

    Have you taken a look at the discussion of HSLDA’s proposed new HONDA legislation? I’m debating Chris O’Donnell on the issue at http://www.odonnellweb.com.

    I’d be interested in your take on this complex and controversial issue!

  3. Mr. Somerville: I dropped you an email with this link: http://agenttimonline.com/?p=47

    Hedonese: Well, of course they are included, just not the basic family. :) Thanks for dropping by!

  4. Hey Tim, heard you on Dr. Mohler’s Radio Program. I’d love to talk to you. E-mail me at your convenience.

  5. Hey brother! It was cool to hear you on the Albert Mohler program! That guy is awesome isn’t he? Well anyway, great site! Keep it up! I’ll check back often.

    In Christ -Jacob

    Philippians 1:21

  6. Elijah,
    Tried to contact you, but the email bounced back…

    Thanks Jacob! Dr. Mohler is awesome! Thanks for visiting!

  7. John M. Kirton II September 24, 2005 at 9:41 AM

    I had the pleasure of hearing your interview on Dr. Albert Mohler’s radio program. I am 41 and must admit with Dr. Mohler in that, your insights into issues are far beyond your age. May God continue to bless you as I continue reading more of your insights in the future.

  8. In response to “Demon Child’s” post…..this post makes the common erroneous assumption that government schools are necessary and the appropriate mode or method for educating children. I think the Bible points to three institutions ordained of GOD: Marriage or family, the church, and government. The commands, admonishments, and exhortations to teach and train children are given overwhelmingly to parents. Bottom-line: unruly children are only a surface symptom of the root problem – government has no business mass educating children. That undelegated responsibility belongs to parents. As for advocates of the “mission field” public schools present…my question is how many are actually brought to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ? The reality and tragedy is many are lost through the vain and foolish philosophies of the world….taught as fact in public schools. In order for soldiers to be effective, they must be thoroughly trained to include realistic exercises that work towards reinforcing and strengthening the soldiers craft and confidence. This means exercising our faith and witness first in battles of our own choosing and then elsewhere. Public school settings are largely under the domain and control of the prince of this world. Throwing an impressionable elementary kid out into the world to drink deep (5-8 hours a day) of their polluted wells and then expect an hour on Sunday and perhaps a 10 minute family devotion some weeknights to mold an effective soldier is foolishness. Small wonder the church is weak, largely ineffective and loosing the spiritual battle and cultural war.

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